The reality of the other person lies not in what he reveals to you but in what he cannot reveal to you. Therefore, if you would understand him, listen not to what he says but rather to what he does not say.
Hum woh nahi jo aap ko gum main chor dey.
Hum woh nahi jo aap se naata tor dey.
Hum to aap ke woh dost hai
jo agar aap ke sans band ho to apni sansay jor dey.