Give all options to the opponent, if you win its historical, if you fight and loose- he is definite to loose next time, if you loose-you can enjoy his happiness even.
When guilt rears its ugly head confront it,
discuss it and let it go. The past is over.
It is time to ask what can we do right,
not what did we do wrong.
Forgive yourself and move on.
A diamond is merely a lump of coal that did well under pressure. So imagine how brilliant a human being can be by sustaining pressures of life. Be hopeful..