"A goal is not the same as a desire, and this is an important distinction to make. You can have a desire you don''t intend to act on. But you can''t have a goal you don''t intend to act on."
If two friends ask you to judge a dispute, don''t accept, because you will lose one friend; on the other hand, if two strangers come with the same request, accept because you will gain one friend......
